Kids still don’t need schools
Hello folks!
I did this video after realizing that the meaning behind my first video about kids not needing schools goes even deeper than I thought.
Disagreeing with somebody can be a catalyst for some major realizations and that’s what happened at home last week. Rob and I had an argument and the next day when we talked we both became aware of some things going on inside of us, in our family and the relationship with our parents.
I’m speaking about connection. Something that gets lost when babies are being separated from the parents, especially the mother, too early, for too long and when the child isn’t ready for it. In our society it’s normal to separate the baby from the mother very soon after giving birth. Research shows that it’s harmful for the child because it creates insecurities that stay with the person for the rest of his life unless they become aware of it.
In the book The continuum concept the author explains her findings about this after visiting and studying tribes living in the South American jungle in the 1970s. The book has been called one of the three influential parenting methods of the 20th century.
Wikipedia summons the concept as follows:
Immediate placement, after birth, in their mothers' arms: Liedloff comments that the common hospital protocol of immediately separating a newborn from its mother may hormonally disrupt the mother, possibly explaining high rates of postpartum depression;
Constant carrying or physical contact with other people (usually their mothers or fathers) in the several months after birth, as these adults go about their day-to-day business (during which the infants observe and thus learn, but also nurse, or sleep); this forms a strong basis of personal security for infants, according to Liedloff, from which they will begin developing a healthy drive for independent exploration by eventually starting to naturally creep, and then crawl, usually at six to eight months; She calls this the "In-Arms" phase.
Sleeping in the parents' bed (called co-sleeping), in constant physical contact, until leaving of their own volition (often about two years);
Breastfeeding "on cue"—involving infants' bodily signals being immediately answered by their mothers' nursing them;
Caregivers' immediate response to the infants' urgent body signals (flaring temper, crying, sniffling, etc.), without judgment, displeasure, or invalidation of the children's needs, but also not showing any undue concern or focusing on or overindulging the children;
Sensing (and fulfilling) elders' expectations that the infants are innately social and cooperative and have strong self-preservation instincts, and that they are welcome and worthy (yet without making them the constant center of attention)
