IN THIS LESSON
What we’re NOT here to do as adults
entertain kids
serve them
solve their problems
save or shield them from mistakes, emotions, confrontation etc
pass on our beliefs (we don’t teach beliefs, we teach first principles)
accept everythig kids do
be responsible for their feelings
Photo by Ryutaro Tsukata
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Our Saturday night General Meetings, alas, show the conflict between children and adults. That is natural, for to have a community of mixed ages and for everyone to sacrifies all to the young children would be to spoil these children completely.
The adults make complaints if a gang of seniors keeps them awake by laughing and talking after all have gone to bed.
Harry complans that he spent an hour planing a panel for the front door, went to lunch, and came back to find that Billy had converted it into a shelf.
I make accusations against the boys who borrowed my soldering outfit and didn’t return it.
My wife makes a fuss because three small children came after supper and said they were hungry and got bread and jam, and the pieces of bread were found lying in the hallway the next morning.
Peter reports sadly that a gang threw his precious clay at each other in the pottery room.
So it goes on, the fight between the adult point of view and the juvenile lack of awareness. But the fight never degenerates into personalities; there is no feeling of bitterness against the individuals.
A.S. Neill, Summerhill School
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“You do not know the true origin of your children.
You call them yours but they are belong to a greater Mystery.
You do not know the name of the Mystery but it is the true Mother and Father of your children.
At birth your children are filled with possibilities.
It is not your job to limit their possibilities.
Do not say ‘This and that are possible for you. These other things are not.’
They will discover themselves what is and what is not possible.
It is your job to stay open to the marvelous mystery of life.”
William Martin